Wednesday! Here is something different for you. I didn’t have a bagel today, but a scone!
Gotta shake things up around here. Fresh made raspberry scones and this was tasty.
Billy settled in quite well overnight in the shop. He was happy to see me this morning after an initial hiss. He has been really friendly with John as well while he works out there. Sweet kitty.
John puts up with a lot of my shenanigans and he is still with me 20 years later. I guess I must be doing something right. You know I tend to be a stray cat magnet, and I always feel very bad about it when it comes to foisting an animal into John’s life, him being allergic and all.
Now, John is one of those people that hardly ever gets angry (although getting grumpy is another story). He never yells and I don’t think he has ever yelled at me that I can remember. For some reason, in my head I am thinking he is going to be angry at me for feeling sorry for the stray kitties. I am constantly apologizing for taking care of the strays. So he said something surprising to me the other day. “Why would I yell at you for being kind?” D’uh. I felt silly after that.
You know it is funny how we put thoughts into other people’s heads that really aren’t there. Why is that?? This happens to me at the gym a lot. I sometimes feel self conscious lifting the weights and think that people are staring or thinking how I look like I should lose 15 pounds or that I should wear different workout clothes. Then someone comes up and says “You really inspire me with how hard you work”. That’s not what I was expecting at all! I am not sure why I think other people have the worst thoughts when I don’t really have them towards other people. Not that I don’t judge, because sometimes it just happens, rightly or wrongly.
I think I just tend to be a bit suspicious of what others think, for whatever reason. Maybe being picked on as a child makes me think that everyone thinks those thoughts, but only some of them say them out loud – instead of the loudmouths being the exception.
Anyway, just my thought for the day.
Great post. I often hear from people who are intimidated or scared to start working out a gym because of what other people will think. I wish everyone understood that most of the time–no one at the gym is noticing ANYONE else but themselves. There’s no need to be self-conscious, or feel like we’re “too fat” to go to the gym, or like people will make fun of them. It’s usually not the case!!!
I love this. My boyfriend is like your husband. He is calm in all situations but I have to admit…I know what buttons to press to set him off.. It can be done.
The scone looks absolutely delicious!
I do the project-a-thought thing, too. Silly….
I’ve been working on what “other people think” lately and had a bit of a breakthrough in that, which I’ll be blogging about, of course. 🙂 It’s sad what we put ourselves through.
Amazing looking scone!! You got me excited for a minute–I thought it was going to be a new recipe!
Yes, I think being picked on as a kid would make you very suspicious of what people are thinking.
John is a keeper!
Great post! Rob and John sound like they’d get along so well. Gotta watch out for the quiet ones, though. 😉
Ralph’s like that. We’ve been together 21 years and we never fight.
I must say that scone looks yummy.
Good to hear Billy is settling in.
I do the same thing. Been feeling kinda guilty for spending so much time crocheting baby gifts for friends and was thinking the hubby must be frustrated and thinking I could be accomplishing more important things. Turns out he wasn’t, just me being paranoid.
This happens to me quite often actually. I thin, for me, it just speaks to some of my insecurities. I feel like I need to make an excuse or justify or apologize because I can’t simply take it all in and be alright with where I am. Maybe it’s due to some image-issues or the fact that I still have weight to loose or maybe it’s just personality. But you’re right, it’s something to work on because more often than not we make a bigger issue of things in our head than they really are.
meant “think” not thin, Freudian slip?? 😉
I have the same habit of doing that. I do think it’s something female too. The workshop I had last week had an example of that. She told a story where a husband came home and was very quiet. She wanted to know what was going on, he told her nothing, and she started thinking it was her. Turned out he had just a rough day at work and didn’t want to talk about it.
As for me how I look at you: you’re an inspiration to me. You are also one of the few bloggers I follow that I talk about to R. Usually after a Saturday bike ride and I tell him how much I enjoyed your post about it and how the 2 of you do that together (and of course about the cupcakes).
I think we both got keepers in John & Bill. In 35+ years, I can count on the fingers of one hand, the number of times he’s been really angry at me. Yet, I know he’s got it in ’em cause he can get riled up in a New York minute if he feels like one of his kids at school is getting slighted.
I tend to agree with Fran that the “what are they thinking” mentality is in some way, a female insecurity trait. I don’t think we can ever completely overcome it, but I’m sure a lot better than I used to be.
LOVE that John appreciates your sweetness!! We do too! 😉
Hear you on the “what others think”. I wish I could get past this & stuck from my youth too. I am better but still work to do. LOVE that you got those compliments – you deserve it!
My thoughts? I like this post. 🙂
Wow! being together for 20 years is amazing. I hope that my boyfriend and I follow the same footsteps =)..in regards to your thoughts about what other people think, I feel the same exact way sometimes; like I am always being judge the wrong way. I think I read somewhere once that we all think we are the center of the universe meanwhile everyone is living in their own world and not necessarily worried about others. By the way—I was also picked on as a child so maybe, like you said, that complex may come from that. Happy Thursday!
What a sweet post Lori. Your John? He’s a keeper. So is Billy! Someone is going to be very lucky to adopt him. (Billy, not John! 🙂 ) Have a good Thursday.
It’s so true – you never know what other people are thinking about you – it could be all great things!
That was a sweet comment your hubby made 🙂
Okay, now I am going to have to make blueberry scones when my pumpkin ones are gone – that looks amazeballs!
I second guess my husbands thoughts all.the.time. And he’s my #1 fan so I don’t know why I do it – lack of self confidence? Who knows!
Hey look, I commented after my twin sister – hi Jenn!
I also worry too much about what people think, and have been working on not doing that.
Your scone looks yummy!
I love his response to you Lori. You have a sweety there for sure. We can create a lot of our own drama in our heads. I was just talking to my mom about that the other day.
Those scones look delicious – haven’t had scones in months!
I’m the same way! It’s hard to not feel self conscious if someone is staring at you.